Couples Therapy

Whether you are at the early stages of your relationship or have been together for decades, being a couple can be one of the most thrilling and wonderful parts of life but it often requires work and effort. Whether you are at the early stages of your relationship or have been together for decades, being a couple can be one of the most thrilling and wonderful parts of life but it requires work and effort. We often believe that meeting someone is the hard part and once that is done, life is like the movies where you live “happily ever after”. While that can certainly happen, relationships, like a plant that gets ignored,  will wither if it isn’t nurtured.” Even the healthiest relationships face challenges. Over time, stress, communication issues, and life changes can create distance between partners. Conflict doesn’t mean a relationship is failing — it often means something important needs attention.

Couples therapy is a place where both partners can be heard, understood, and supported in building a stronger connection. In my practice I use a variety of methods including EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and the Gottman Method. I often recommend 90 minutes for couples sessions so that we have the time to attend to everyone. 

Common Relationship Struggles

Couples may seek therapy for many reasons, including:

• Communication breakdowns — feeling unheard, misunderstood, or frequently arguing
• Emotional distance or disconnection
• Frequent conflict or unresolved tension
• Trust issues — including infidelity or past hurts
• Parenting disagreements or blended family challenges
• Financial stress and decision-making conflicts
• Sexual intimacy concerns or mismatched needs
• Life transitions — such as moving, illness, or career changes
• Loss of shared goals, values, or direction
• In laws/extended family
• Substance use/abue
• Infidelity
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Over time, these issues can erode closeness and cause couples to feel stuck, resentful, or isolated.

How Couples Therapy Can Help

Couples therapy provides a neutral, supportive space where both partners can:

• Learn to communicate more effectively and openly
• Resolve conflicts in a healthy, respectful way
• Understand each other’s needs, emotions, and perspectives
• Rebuild trust and emotional safety
• Improve intimacy and connection
• Strengthen the foundation of the relationship

I can help identify unhelpful patterns and guide couples in developing tools to break cycles of blame, withdrawal, or defensiveness. Whether a couple is working to repair, reconnect, or make thoughtful decisions about their future, therapy can support the process.

It’s Never Too Early — or Too Late — to Get Support

Couples often wait until problems feel unmanageable to seek help, but therapy can be just as valuable for maintaining a strong relationship as it is for repairing one.  Research states that most committed couples wait seven years too long to consider therapy; you don’t have to be on the verge of a breakup to get the tools and skills to help you thrive together. It’s a space for growth, not judgment. 

What Couples Therapy is NOT? It is not about changing the other person while we remain the same. It is not about judging or mediating who is right and who is wrong. It IS about wanting to work at understanding why the two of you interact in ways that are creating unhappiness, friction, loneliness, fear etc. It is about addressing and managing outside stressors like careers, children, in laws, finances, other health concerns, substance use/abuse, infidelity and more. It is about finding that love that you once had and improving upon it. 

Investing in Your Relationship

Relationships take work — but with the right support, they can also bring deep connection, healing, and joy. Couples therapy offers a path forward, whether you’re rebuilding trust or simply wanting to feel closer again.